The Author
The Heart Behind the Story
About the Author
Vicki Mills holds a B.Ed. from University of Miami an MS and M.Ed. from Florida International University. She answers questions on approximately 20 different FB groups about dealing with narcissistic abusive relationships. Vicki has spent her professional life as an educator, curriculum designer and developer, biologist and fighting for women’s rights. She taught Science and Biology, wrote sex education curriculum for Miami Dade County Schools, had a 21-year career with USDA, lived in Hawaii, the Philippines, Hungary, traveled to 65 countries and taught English in China.
She enjoys raising her mostly non-narcissistic Burmese cat, painting, growing exotic tropical plants and photography. Her award winning, “Incredible Inside-Out Body” T-Shirt and Owner’s Manual, was featured at the “International Year of the Child” Exhibition at the Smithsonian Museum, in two separate exhibitions at their Renwick Gallery in Washington, D.C. She developed a successful course for FIU; “We Are People”, to raise awareness of disparate treatment of women and girls.
In 2018 at the Tribeca Film Festival, NYC, she was proud to be a part of the cast, interviewed in the acclaimed Netflix documentary, “The Bleeding Edge”. An “eye opening look at the medical device industry which reveals how their rush to innovate leads to devastating consequences for patients”, (particularly women).
With this book, she is sharing a lifetime of hard-won lessons from the caldron of surviving narcissistic abusive relationships. This book has been a labor of love to give women the “know-how” to get through with dignity, self-esteem intact, survive, thrive and move into the emotionally healthy life they deserve.
Lived Experiences Matter!
How dealing with difficult people has given her the ability to pass on valuable lessons learned over her long, experience-filled lifetime. You will be able relate to her stories and have many aha moments while reading her book. Being a life-long educator and biologist has given her the unique ability and opportunity to share those relatable experiences with you. She has written this book for several reasons:
It is a cautionary tale of how a person can be caught in the narcissist’s trap and suffer a lifetime of abuse just from that one relationship.
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She has done the research for you, delving into every aspect of narcissism so you are protected from becoming a serial narcissists’ partner. The wisdom in this book about the “Hows” and the “Whys” of this personality disorder will fortify you with the ability to spot them before they “hook” you with alternating between “love bombing” and deprivation that causes you to become trauma-bonded to them. Knowing this will empower you to walk away unscathed.
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To give you, the reader the understanding of what is truly happening in those kinds of relationships. It will enable you to keep yourself safe from people like that, who can only do you harm, because they cannot help it. You will never ask questions like this again:
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“What is happening to me?” “Should I leave him after 10 years of marriage, …or after 2 children?”
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It is also a “How-To” book to give you the tools, not only to spot the “red-flags” to overt the dangers of getting into a relationship with a narcissist partner, but also gives you the tools if you are in a relationship with a narcissist, to outsmart them with tested strategies you can use to keep your emotions out of their hands, build back your self-esteem, get out gracefully, heal and reclaim your life!